In other words, you work smarter instead of harder.
So the “insight” that you need to get from all of this is that 20% of the activities in your life (input) affects 80% of your happiness (output).
So while you may have your family, your friends, your hobbies, your interests, sports, tv, internet, dating, movies, playing, yard work, the love of your ife, THE THINGS YOU LOVE MOST! - when you add those all together, they’re STILL only a tiny chunk of your life compared to the 80% that you spend on work.
So if you could only choose to focus on ONE thing in your life that would have the biggest impact on your level of happiness and bring you the greatest “return on investment” - this is what it would be. Think about it…
If you could be happy for 80% of your life, that’d be a pretty good deal, right?
I’m sure that if somebody offered you a way to be happy for 80% of your life, you’d take it in a heartbeat. I think there is a way that you can spend 80% of your life doing what makes you happy.
Your Life Ambition!
The focus is on “moving on with your life” and shaping your life ambition. A sense of emptiness is why it’s so important to have a new direction in life.
Your ambition is what you should spend 80% of your day pursuing.
So not only is ambition a huge part of your life, it’s also going to have a big impact on your level of happiness.
We’re talking about 80% of your life right now.
Now you’re about to embark on a journey of “discovery” In other words, it’s time to discover what the heck 80% of your life is all about.
Too many peope are “sleeping walking” through life, the defaut option.
If you’re wondering what that “default programming” is, it’s probably no different than the programming most people have.
You know… it’s the “safe choice”
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A steady job with a decent salary.
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Job security and employee benefits.
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It seems like a pretty “smart” choice
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So most of us go to school and just stick with the “safe choice”
Pursuing what we really want to do with our life often stirs up judgment or criticism from well-meaning parents, family, friends, teachers, etc.
So after hearing all this feedback from other people, we begin to think that what we want to do is unrealistic or that we’re just dreaming and we have to “face reality”
Eventually, we just don’t even bother to give it any more thought in fear of disapproval, judgment, criticism, or scrutiny.
And, even when we do entertain such a thought, it’s scary. We feel like we’re straying too far from the “crowd” or from what’s considered “normal”
We instantly get a handful of reasons of why it won’t work and we start to doubt ourselves.
Our mind goes “what if this and that” and how am I supposed to actually make a living doing this?
Eventually, we decide that it’s not realistic and we just go back to the comfort and safety of the “smart choice”
The problem is that all of this is rooted in fear.
There are only 2 basic emotions in life - love and fear.
“Positive” emotions like joy, happiness, peace and appreciation can be traced back to love.
“Negative” emotions such as anger, frustration, and sadness can be traced back to fear.
As you learned earlier in the book, your experience of life is determined by what you choose to focus on and what you believe you can experience.
When we limit who we are or what we can do to any degree because of fear, it puts a limit on the kind of life we’re able to live.
However, as we expand our limits, we allow more desirable experiences into our life.
We choose to live our life with a more empowering “mindset” because we realize that we’re not only capable of it, but even more importantly, we realize that we deserve it and we’re worth it.
So when your future, your career, or your job, is rooted in fear; you are resigning yourself to a life of mediocrity.
“Being realistic is the most common path to mediocrity.” – Will Smith
Trying to “fit in” and do what everyone else is doing often leads you down a path of unhappiness.
The reason for this is because “following the crowd” and doing what’s considered “normal” doesn’t take into account the things that make you happy personally.
Here’s one of my all time favorite quotes by Ellen Goodman… “Normal” is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work and driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for - in order to get to the job you need to pay for the clothes and the car, and the house you leave vacant all day so you can afford to live in it.
The reason I love this quote so much is because it shows the absurdity of how most of us live our lives, often without ever even questioning it.
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Why do we do it?
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What’s the reward?
Robert Frost would answer such a question with…
“By working faithfully 8 hours a day you may eventually get to be a boss and work 12 hours a day” Some of this may sound a little discouraging or you might think that it’s a pessimistic way of looking at a job or a career.
So I want to make sure that I’m not adding any of my own personal bias and I’d like to share a report that was recently released on January 5th, 2010 by The Conference Board.
The Conference Board is an organization that has studied and researched the level of job satisfaction for the past 22 years.
On the next page, you’ll find an article reporting their recent survey results.
U.S. Job Satisfaction at Lowest Level in Two Decades
Americans of all ages and income brackets continue to grow increasingly unhappy at work -- a long-term trend that should be a red flag to employers, according to a report released today by The Conference Board.
The report, based on a survey of 5,000 U.S. households conducted for The Conference Board by TNS, finds only 45 percent of those surveyed say they are satisfied with their jobs, down from 61.1 percent in 1987, the first year in which the survey was conducted.
Through both the economic boom and the bust during the past two decades, our job satisfaction numbers have shown a consistent downward trend. Fewer Americans are satisfied with all aspects of their employment, and no age or income group is immune.
In fact, the youngest group of employees (those currently under age 25) expresses the highest level of dissatisfaction ever recorded by the survey for that age group.
The least satisfied workers are the Millenials (those under 30) and those in the Financial industry (no shocker there).
65% of survey respondents said they’re looking around for a new job and 60% said that they plan to intensify their job search over the next three months, despite the economy.
22 percent of respondents said they don't expect to be in their current job in a year.
Less than 20 percent said they feel passionate about their jobs
Less than 15% of people said they were “extremely” satisfied
In summary:
55% of people are not satisfied with their job and are not happy with the way they choose to spend 80 percent of their day.
Less than 20% of people are actually passionate about their job
Less than 15% of people are extremely satisfied with how they choose to spend 80 percent of their day.
So the question is:
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What category do you fall into?
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Are you satisfied with your job?
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Are you happy with the way you spend 80% of your day?
If the answer is yes, that’s awesome… you fall into the group that makes up less than 15% of the population.
If the answer is no, there are really only 2 questions you can ask yourself…
1) Are you willing to take responsibility for how you’re living 80% of your life and do what makes you happy?
2) Or are you just going to do what’s considered “normal” and be unhappy with how you spend 80% of your life.
If you really boil things down, the #1 reason that people stay in a job that doesn’t really make them happy is because of fear.
Ironically, fear is also the #1 thing that stops people from pursuing their dreams and working towards achieving their real goal.
Fear of the lack of security, or the reduced paycheck, or the “unknown future” is what keeps people locked in routines that aren’t making them happy.
This is a sad fact, but most people in the world work jobs they don’t like and only truly live their passions on the weekends or outside of working hours… if at all. Only a tiny fraction of people actually live their passions day in and day out, how they want to and when they want to.
Many people sickened and intrigued by this at the same time so I began to dig deeper in order to try to understand why so many of us consistently settle for doing things that don’t make us happy.
After a lot of contemplation, I discovered that there’s actually a very interesting “inner conflict” around the idea of our career.
See, the need for survival is the most basic and fundamental need that we have as human beings; yet the most important need we all have is the need to be happy.
So when we’re deciding what want to do for the rest of our lives, there’s a tricky dynamic at work behind the scenes.
The motivational forces of “pain and pleasure” come into play.
Our need for pleasure is to be happy and do the things we love yet the fear takes over because our mind doesn’t know if we can support ourselves and be able to “survive” doing what we love.
Inability to survive = pain, suffering, and even death, And as you learned earlier, pain is a MUCH stronger motivator because of its survival instincts over the years.
So what often happens is that we sacrifice our ultimate need to be happy in order to meet our basic need for survival.
Our lowest desire ends up ruling our highest desire.
We consciously know that we’re not happy yet we continue to put up with it. Then we come up with a lot of very creative stories and convincing reasons for why we’re still stuck in a job we aren’t happy with in order to justify it to ourselves.
In the famous book Blink, by Malcolm Gladwell, he describes how we actually make most of our decisions on an unconscious level… and often within a split second.
So what happens is that we make a decision unconsciously and then we let our conscious mind know about it and then it goes “okay, let me make up a story about that so it makes sense and I don’t appear crazy to myself”
There was a mind-blowing fact I once heard that said that decisions are actually made 7 seconds before the conscious mind is even aware of it.
So the big insight you need to get from all of this is that we make the decision unconsciously and then a part of our brain literally “feeds” it up to our conscious mind. Then we justify the unconscious decision we made so we don’t seem crazy for doing something that clearly doesn’t make any sense.
The reason you need to understand this is so that you can become aware of the pattern and see the way it’s affecting your decisions around your job, career, ambition, or purpose.
For example: the very idea of leaving your current job or switching careers might trigger a lot of fear for you. So what often happens is that the fear takes over and you make a decision that you’re not going to do it unconsciously because you’re afraid or you simply don’t know what to expect.
Then 7 seconds later, you use your conscious mind to create a story about how “it’s not the right time” because the job market is down, or you think you’re about to get a promotion soon, or you may even start to convince yourself that your job isn’t that bad and start to look for the few things you can appreciate about it.
You come up with all these clever reasons and then you weave them into a story that you tell yourself over and over again to justify your decision so you don’t seem crazy for staying in a position that clearly doesn’t make you happy.
So the question that I challenge you to ask yourself is…
If you lived fearlessly, would you be making a living the same way you are right now?
Your Purpose in Life
Now that you’ve assessed where you’re at, the next section is going to help you discover your purpose in life.
My all-time favorite quotes by Robert Bryne…
“The purpose of life is to achieve a life of purpose”
Imagine that you are a ship and your life is a vast ocean. A life without a purpose is like an aimless ship on the sea.
You may have a ship (your mind and body) but if you never lock in on a course (purpose) you’ll end up drifting and bobbing around aimlessly in the ocean.
You’ll be bumped around by all the waves and tides of the ocean (all the day to day occurrences and all the external influences of society and the world)
If you choose to coast aimlessly, you might end up stuck on the shore of a deserted island, sunk by an iceberg, or flipped over by a tidal wave.
A purpose serves as a “lighthouse” – something that gives us direction and guides us through our lives, our work, our relationships, our decisions, and our daily actions.
Once we discover our purpose, it’s like we’ve found our “true north” and our purpose becomes an “internal compass” that we can center everything in our life around.
However, if you don’t have a clear purpose or a goal in life that you are constantly pursuing or working towards, you’re essentially just living aimlessly.
You’re lacking direction and focus and you’re just drifting through life without really knowing where you’re actually going.
So do you want to be an aimless ship or do you want to take charge and start directing your course of travel?
You need to realize that life is NOT a smooth sail. Just like the ocean, life has its own tides and waves.
There will be a lot of “bumps in the road” no matter what path you take.
Regardless of the direction you choose, there will be a lot of hard work involved and obstacles you’ll need to overcome.
That’s just how life works; it’s inevitable. There is no way to avoid it, there is no shortcut to take, and there is no easy way out.
Just accept that you’re going to have to deal with trials and tribulations no matter what road you take.
Once you realize that you’re going to face a series of tests regardless of the path you choose, you start to think…
“If I’m going to bust my butt to overcome a ton of obstacles no matter what road I take, there might as well be a greater purpose for all the stuff I’m going to have to endure.”
It might as well be worth it, you know?
You might as well put up with garbage on a road that’ll lead you somewhere that you actually want to go; something that you actually care about, something meaningful to you.
It’s not like if you take the “safe route” you won’t have any garbage to deal with. You’ll still have to bust your butt through school and job interviews and overcome a lot of other obstacles; the only difference is that it’ll be even harder for you to do it because you don’t care about it.
If it’s not something you’re passionate about, you’ll just end up burning your willpower and forcing yourself to fight through it.
Why not use that energy to fight for something that you actually care about?
Another one of my all-time favorite quotes is by a philosopher named Friedrich Nietzsche and he says... He who has a “why” to live can bear almost any “how”
If you know what you’re doing and why you’re doing it, you can overcome any obstacle you’ll encounter on your journey.
However, if you don’t have a purpose; not only is your life empty, unfulfilling, and void of any meaning but you won’t find motivation to overcome all the adversity that you’ll inevitably encounter.
If you don’t have a strong enough “why” to push through the hardship, you’ll be tempted to give up and quit.
If there’s no greater purpose behind what you’re doing, it’s too easy to just stay down when life knocks you down.
So you can think of the “why” as your “purpose” - if you know why you want to do something, you’ll figure out how to do it.
This one decision can single handedly make or break your future. Remember, we’re talking about 80% of your life right now.
If you don’t give it some serious thought and choose something that you truly enjoy doing, you are wasting both your time and your energy because it’s really only a matter of time before you realize that you’re not happy and end up changing careers.
Or even worse, you may not do anything about it at all.
You may passively float through life compaining about your job, your boss, how much you hate going to work, and complaining about how unhappy you are in general.
If you cut off from your own passion for 80% of the day, it’ll be pretty hard for you to have any passion period.
Not only are you turning off your true passion by working simply for the sake of a “steady paycheck” that pays the bills; but you’re actually draining any energy you’d have to pursue your passion after work.
By the time you get home, you’re too exhausted to spend time on your passion so you often just end up “relaxing” by watching TV and numbing out with mindless entertainment.
Simply put, if you’re just coasting through life without a purpose, you’re not getting the most out of your life.
You’re simply existing instead of actually living.
If you’re going to be living in this world anyways, why not get the best out of it?
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